The purpose of parenting

It's the duty of parents to take care of their children

Like any career, parenting has a purpose. Mothers would agree with me that the main purpose is to protect our children and to prepare them how to survive and thrive in the society where they live. Things are different when we are growing up as it is now dangerous to raise children in the kind of society we live in.

Drugs are now easily find and teenagers are more harmful than ever. Crimes against children are everywhere as well as crimes committed by children. Violence in schools are getting more alarming plus the rising  risks of terrorism are  a valid reason for concern.Not to forget that sex now is life threatening.

With all of these, we tend to overprotect our children rather than prepare them to thrive on their own. Remember that part of our purpose as a parent is to prepare them so that they will survive. We must bear in mind that our job is to work out of the job which means preparing our children on the path of being independent and on their own.

To help us achieve our goals,here are three ways to help us to do it :

1.Discuss and talk with other parents to find out  what risks are reasonable for your children to take  in your command. This means that asking  for example what age they should be left home alone and where it is safe for them to play. You'll get ideas from other parents who have been successful in this areas.

2.Joint in parents associations, parents support groups and other organizations. Work within your community to make it a better place to rear your children.

3.Allow your children to develop independence gradually.We all know that children undergo different stages of development, appropriate behavior at one age may not be appropriate at another. You can read books to know what to expect at these different stages of development. You can also tap school authorities to help you.

Parenting is may not be an easy task but if we as parents know its real purpose, it can be the most rewarding jobs we'll ever have. We choose to be parents, we must sincerely live up to that choice!

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Ways to become best working Parents to your kids

In this time of financial instability, both parents, the mom and dad are forced to work outside the house to meet family's needs. It is sometimes hard to be working and at the same time being a parent. Tere are  times that you seem to neglet the other and feel guilty about it. If mom has to go out of the house and work, she can still be the Mom she should be to her kids as long as she knows the secret.

Share time. This means you share your time with them an not just spend. Sharing means doing things that both benefits you and the kids. Baking during Sunday or Saturday is great. Cleaning the house or  helping them out in their homeworks are just example of time both of you and the kids could share together.

Remember that "Little time is better tahn none". If you can't spend a half a day, an hour or two with the kids will be enough. Kids do understand and making them feel they're wanted and given attention even in small or limited time, they'll appreciate it. A lminutes to take a look at their finished art work is enough to make them know, you're trying as hard as you can to give them time.

Son't Make it Big. Sometimes as we feel guilty about giving our kids much time as we could, we tend  lessen the guilt by giving lavish rewards or gifts as if paying back what we have missed. Don't make your child feel you're paying back but do make them feel that you're trying hard to give them time and attention. A simple hug or  good night kiss is enough to make them feel you're there and not forgetting.

Parents are in control of the relationship in the family. You choose the kind of control you take in. Remember that all needs such as food, clothes, shelter are provided naturally but the love and attention is given out of choice. Kids will do even wanting with basic needs but they will not survuve without the love and attention of their parents. As the parents, you opt to gove them to your kids or else you are not entitle to be one.

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Make the most out of being a stay-at-home Moms

So what if you are a stay-at-home moms? This doesn't mean that you can't have  some good  times being one. You can still have the best of your time by doing things that are related to your career. Of course, being a  full time mom is a career and it is could be as rewarding as other career. How to do it?

Simply join Mom's club. There are lots of company sponsored moms' club. Nestle Club is just one of them that offers many ways of having good times while being a full time moms. All you have to do is simply fill out forms. That's it, no fees or any charge at all. Once you become a member, you will be entitle to different offers from the company such as cooking demonstrations, tips and advises, recipes and if you're lucky, you get offers for sample products and simple survey. You also learn from other moms members like you and you can build your circle of new moms friends. Some companies also gives promotional discounts and this will set you from the rest. (non members of course).

There's no reason to rant about your being a stay-at-home mom. You will be privileged to know more about  house keeping,, kids rearing and more. Setting a time for being online is your first step. Search for moms' club that appeal best for you. Simply fill up membership form and start getting the perks.

For a starter, I recommend you  to join Nestle Club. Just click the link and you'll be on your way to having a good time being a stay-at-home mom.  I am one of the members and i swear you'll have great time while you share, learn and mingle with moms like you.You'll enjoy the freebies, too.

Get started by clicking this link :http://www.nestle.com.ph/recipe/nestleclub/default.asp

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